6 WAYS YOU'RE SABOTAGING YOUR SELF-CARE AND FUCKING YOURSELF OVER


1. BEING COMPLACENT + FUCKING SABOTAGE-Y LAZY

You put off vital self-care activities because they dont seem like they'd be "effective" enough because MAYBE they could be ridiculously arbitrary to others or just teeny tiny little acts, so "tiny" that they don't seem like an act of self-love and like nothing much "worth" doing - like drinking a glass of fucking water or something - cos why would hydration be pretty fucking important to like, survival? Or you know taking off your shoes or putting on some fresh bed sheets would be I don't know? Comfortable? And brushing your hair would be maybe like, nice?
You blow off the easiest and simplest of actions because they're TOO easy and couldn't make the world of difference - or could they??
Every time you say, "Yes. This feels good. This makes me feel better." You engage the part of your parasympathetic nervous system responsible for rest and recovery - the complete opposite of your fear response or "fight or flight" mode - this leads to healing, to stress release, to nourishment and to physical, mental and emotional soothing. Even if you're just THINKING (i.e attacking yourself) with negative, low-vibe thoughts you're activating your fear response. A few kind words can completely change your physiological structure and return you back home to your true self, to love.

But really... right now ask yourself, "How can I feel just the SLIGHTEST bit better/more comfortable?" And then actually DO IT because no matter how simple or small the act - if it soothes the soul and makes you feel good, it's still REAL self-care and builds up your self-love.

2. JUDGING YOUR OWN SELF-CARE
You are JUDGING the "quantity" and percieved SOCIAL fucking value and quality of your own self-care. Why the fuck does "self-care" absolutely HAVE to equate to the latest instatrends? Or elaborate fucking Vogue 10 step beauty regimes? Or fucking peel-off charcoal face masks? Or fucking la-di-da body oils in TINY but like, luscious bottles? Or smoothie bowls? You know? Self-care is about feeding the soul in ANY capacity. Not JUST beauty. Not JUST fashion. Not JUST alternative wellness. And the fact that you even take into consideration what others might think about your self-love practices and their current trend status actually just feeds your FEARS about not being loved/accepted/approved of/cared about. How fucking BACKWARDS is that?!?!? Doing self-care activities under the guise of self-love when it's really motivated by underlying reasons that are completely the opposite! So what are you REALLY manifesting huh? How are you REALLY treating yourself? Are you acting out of self-love? Or is it self-loathing and fear instead? 🤔 You are already perfect... ANY self-care that you apply that's motivated by love and compassion - instead of just buying into low-vibe trendy marketing ideals - is perfect also.

My "However.." Disclaimer: Yes! By all means indulge in the latest and greatest but only - ONLY - if it really and truly lights you the fuck up and your very soul craaaaves it. So yeah, maaaybe luscious body oil? 💖

3. NOT COMMITING
You're not comitting to ALL of yourself. I dont just mean commiting to the hustle you, the biz chick you, the productive coffee guzzling wannabe instababe you and commiting to doing all you can to be all you wanna be in a profesh/career/entrepreneur way. I mean the you that ISN'T photos-or-it-didn't-happen "cool". The you that you keep tucked away from public judgemental eyes. The you that deep down you really wish you could just let ALL the way out and not give one flying fuck what anyone thinks. The REAL you just desperately simmering away under the surface "you" - I'm talking about embodying, releasing, unleashing and commiting 100% to THAT.
Full. Blown. All. Out. ALIGNMENT.
With your truest, highest SOUL self.
Putting ALL your energy into just EFFORTLESSLY being ALL of you instead of a projection of what you THINK you should be to fit some mold.

Yah. THAT.

4. NOT BEING 100% YOUR AUTHENTIC + ALIGNED SELF
...Because NOT being yourself 100% and being RESERVED is going to run you down, use up so much oh so PRECIOUS energy RESERVES and emotions and manifesting mind power and burn you the fuck out BEFORE you even kick into first gear, BEFORE you even begin to operate at 1% of your current highest potential, BEFORE you can begin to be all that you dream of being. You're wasting time! You're wasting energy! You're wasting your LIFE away being someone that isn't actually even you. All this burning out bullshit - which by the way I know happens OFTEN and like a recurring cycle of starting again and again and AGAIN, again - can be completely avoided if only you were in ALIGNMENT with your soul by actually being YOU. At. All. Times. Which is the FASTEST way to success and abundance by the way... the path of LEAST resistance, just flowing through your life as YOU.

What a crazy, far out thought right?

5. THE FEAR OF FUCKING UP
Being scared of burning out, fucking your life up and fucking yourself over is actually what's gonna burn you out, fuck your life up and fuck yourself over. It's manifestation 101. Everything you think and do is driven by the fear of failure. The fear of letting yourself down. The fear of not maintaining your game. The fear of making a wrong move. The fear of working so hard to see your efforts crumble... Infuses into all that you currently are, all that you think, all that you do. Everything extending from you is fueled by fear so yes! Everything WILL eventually go to shit. Not to mention the physiological effects of consistently and constantly living in flight or fight mode! Ah anxiety anyone?
You were not born some ideal of perfection you were born PERFECTLY human. Mistakes are made. Bad decisions happen. Choices are chosen outside of alignment. But you don't have to continue down that path. In an instant you can flip the switch, pull a u-turn and choose to be motivated by love, by forgiveness of yourself, by trusting the divine inner wisdom of your inner guide; your intuition. You don't need to know absolutely EVERYTHING about what's in store for you in the future. When you let go and trust in yourself, when you trust in your intuition, when you trust in the universe and think/speak/act/create from a place of SOUL alignment and keep moving forward, keep compassionately forgiving yourself, keep being motivated by the love of life, love of your self (even just your future self for the time being) and love of your wildest dreams coming true - YOU WILL ALWAYS BE GUIDED. And all those fears you were originally being driven by will seem so trivial and insignificant they'll become completely obsolete.

Now there is ONE more MAJOR way that you are probably sabotaging your self-care:

6. MONEY BLOCKS
The idea that you HAVE to spend x amount to qualify as doing something of value for yourself and either spending the money and resenting the investment and not actually FULLY taking pleasure in your purchase - or the opposite - NOT investing in yourself because you can't "afford" to. Sure there is reckless spending but that's really a form of self-sabotage and a result of an underlying fear, so when it comes to actually caring for your soul and the core of who you are and supporting your purpose on this planet- you can't afford NOT to invest in yourself!

That is JUST 6 ways you could be sabotaging yourself self-care!
FROM-THE-SOUL SELF-CARE IS VITAL!!!!!!!
It is on par with basic survival and can make all the difference between struggling in your life, in your mind, in your body, in your health, in your money, in your sensuality, in your business, in your relationships - in everything! - or living, being, breathing ease and flow, trusting a deeper wisdom within, being completely 100% comfortable in your own skin EXACTLY as you are past, present and future, having a fucking POWERFUL presence, exuding humble AF confidence and an unshakeable sense of love and compassion for yourself.
Even if you're NOT in that place where you feel that self-love isn't yet - or will ever be - achievable for you... The mere WILLINGNESS to show yourself compassionate care and kindness is ALL it will take for the mental, physical and emotional shifts to begin to take place and then one shift after another and another will eventually build into an impenetrable fortress of fucking cosmic love and you will accept no less than to be treated and treat yourself #likeafuckinggoddess

Tell me in the comments what ways are you currently complacent, lazy or sabotaging your self-care... and share this post with your babes to get them on board too.